When will we get along? We create problems but God gives us solutions.  We are called to reconcile, and God gives us a method.  This is called fraternal correction.  But very few of us seldom use it and when we do use it, we misuse it. For instance, we want to skip to the end of the process and deemed others as tax-collectors or Gentiles (pagans) in a derogatory way.  Treating them as tax-collectors or Gentiles does not mean to treat them with anger, calling them names, it means to treat them as Jesus treated the tax-collectors and the Gentiles, with love and compassion. Even when the problem persists, love still needs to remain. Unfortunately, we don’t use the method well.  If we don’t skip to end, disregarding people, we then go to the step when we bring other witnesses to the matter but misuse this option as well.  We really don’t bring “witnesses” but really “allies.”  People that will take our side, and we will “gang up” on the other with whom we have disputes.  The enemy of my enemy is my friend. When we bring the matter to the church, there we mess it up too.  For we ventilate problems to some members of the church, and soon people know and start to take sides.   Problems now become rumors, and sometimes even factions start to form in the church, taking sides rather than to unite those at enmity.  The best way to resolve the problem is to bring it to the confessional.  There the priest (who acts as the representative of the church) can help mediate.  Rather than broadcasting the problem to people, get the sacramental absolution for the forgiveness of sins, and the grace to forgive others that also comes from the confessional. Be discreet, there is an expression in Spanish that says “Dirty clothes is best washed at home.” But what is worse of all in misusing this process, we don’t start it at all!  We skip all to the way to enmity.  Pass Go do not collect two hundred, land in jail.  Our anger or hurt or both is too much that we don’t care for the process at all, and we go straight to not talking with the
person anymore.  And yet we will be held liable for love is the fulfillment of the law.  We have a tendency to hold grudges, but the Lord gives us a true method to use for forgiveness, our salvation depends on its use.